7/19/16
We went Nationals game for annual Kim's family men hangout
It was a beautiful day to watch baseball and Reynold Lopez's MLB debut (Nats lose to Dogers 8:4). Baseball is America's pastime and it is also my family's annual men's event. It was fun and happy to be there with my sons. Attached below is the picture from last year as well.
Today I wanna talk about "My dream".
As an immigrant, I have something to tell you. First of all, let's talk about FAMILY!
We are the only family living in this country since we moved from Japan and Korea ~20 years ago and all other family members are still living in Korea. I feel sorry to you guys not giving you a chance to see other families such as grandpa, grandma, uncles, aunts, and cousins more frequently. It's much better to mingle together with other family members when you were young. Since I became to US citizen, I probably die in this land and wish I wanna be a great grandpa to your children.
I'm dreaming about me as a grandpa and here is the list for my plan when I get older!
- Try to be with my sons and grandchildren as much as possible, just be with them
- Read a book to my grandchildren
- Bring them to the amusement parks
- Buy them toys
- Read Bible to them
- Give allowance to them
- Travel with them
- Give the hugs as many times as possible
Second thing is "living close by".
To make the above things happen, I wish both Brian and Dennis live near me, so we can see each other more easily. If you live far away like west coast, it will be challenging to see more frequently. Considering we're still small size family even you get married, I wish all of us live very close area.
When you are in my age, I wish mom and dad will be above you; your children will be under you; your wife will be with you. As God blessed Abraham, I wish you and your family will be a blessing.
Genesis 12:1-3
The LORD had said to Abram, "Leave your country, your people and your father's household and go to the land I will show you. I will make you into a great nation and I will bless you; I will make your name great, and you will be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse; and all peoples on earth will be blessed through you."
in Korean
매년 여름 아이들과 함께 야구경기를 보러가는것이 이제는 남자들만의 연례행사가 되었고 이제는 야구장 가는 날을 손꼽아 기다리게 되었다. 아이들과 함께하는 시간이 우선 좋고, 탁트인 곳에서 맥주한잔을 하면서 좋은경기를 관람하다보면 스트레스도 날라가기때문이다.
상욱아 태욱아,
아빠랑 엄마는 이민자로 이곳에서 살아가면서 우리가족만 달랑 이곳에 살다보니 너희들에게 한국에 있는 할아버지, 할머니, 작은아빠, 고모, 이모 그리고 사촌들과 함께 하는시간을 너희들에게 주지못해 미안한 생각이 든다.
그래서 아빠는 이곳에서 살아가면서 너희들이 나중에 커서 결혼하고 아이들을 낳아서 키우게되면 반드시 하고 싶은 일들이 있고 오늘은 아빠의 꿈에 대해서 이야기하고 싶구나.
우선, 나에게 손자손녀가 생기면 해주고 싶은 것들이 많이 있는데,
- 아이들과 될수 있으면 많이 같이 옆에 있어주기
- 할아버지가 되어 손주들에게 장난감 사주기
- 할아버지로서 손주들에게 동화책 읽어주기
- 할아버지로서 손주들데리고 놀이동산 놀러가기
- 할아버지로서 손주들에게 성경 읽어두고 가르쳐주기
- 할아버지로서 손주들에게 용돈주기
- 할아버지로서 손주들과 여행다니기
- 할아버지로서 손주들을 많이 안아주기
- 할아버지로서 손주들에게 많이 뽀뽀해주기, 등등
그리고 이런 모든일들이 가능하게 하려면, 상욱태욱이가 나중에 우리 근처에서 자리를 잡고 가깝게 살았으면 하는 소망도 있다. 아무리 손주들에게 해주고 싶은것들이 많아도, 경제적으로 여유가 있어도, 지리적으로 멀리 떨어져 산다면 말짱 도루묵이니까...
아이들이 건강하게 자라서 사회에 꼭 필요한 사람이 되어 자리잡고 살아가길 바라고 또 상욱태욱이가 내 나이가 되어서 그들 위로는 우리가 옆에 있어주고, 그들 아래에는 키워야할 아이들이 있고, 또 그들 옆에는 믿음의 배우자가 있어서 하나님이 아브라함에게 복을 주셨듯이 세상에 복의 근원이 되는 행복한 믿음의 가정을 세우기를 기도한다.
창세기12:1-3
여호와께서 아브람에게 이르시되 너는 너의 고향과 친척과 아버지의 집을 떠나 내가 네게 보여 줄 땅으로 가라. 내가 너로 큰 민족을 이루고 네게 복을 주어 네 이름을 창대하게 하리니 너는 복이 될지라. 너를 축복하는 자에게는 내가 복을 내리고 너를 저주하는 자에게는 내가 저주하리니 땅의 모든 족속이 너로 말미암아 복을 얻을 것이라 하신지라
상욱 태욱에게 남기는 유산 (Inheritance to my beloved sons Brian & Dennis. It's more precious than $$$)
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Father-Son Hangout 8
7/13/16
Today is the first day for Dennis internship at Georgetown Asian Studies Program
It's been a while to write a blog because I has been suffering body itchiness for the past one month. It is still killing me and I have to be very cautious for my usual habits including eating, exercise, and mind control.
Anyway, Brian got his wisdom teeth removal surgery yesterday and it went well. Dennis just started his first day at Asian Studies Program at Georgetown as an intern. I wish it help his future career.
Last week, there were shooting incident at Dallas Texas and five police officers were slain and that happened after black males were killed by white police officers. This nations are now deeply divided by racism and we need a solidarity and unity. Yesterday, President Obama attended memorial service for those officers in Dallas and gave a excellent speech. So here I'm posting his speech script and former President Bush's as well.
Their speech were very impressive and will be remembered by history. Bush's are 6 min long and Obama's are 40 min long. Both of them cited Bible scripts as I indicated below.
I wish both Brian and Dennis keep these bible verses in their minds and live well with HIM all the time. As God blessed Abraham, so does to my beloved sons!!!
Today's blog is quite long, so be patient and read to the end.
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Lets start with President Obama speech first.
https://youtu.be/A5IcMdwV6Hg
He cited Rome 5:3-4 at the beginning and at the end.
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope
Also he cited two other Scripts in the middle of his message to emphasize "OPEN HEART"
Let us not love in word, neither in tongue, but in deed and in truth (1 John 3:18)
I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh (Ezekiel 36:26)
Today is the first day for Dennis internship at Georgetown Asian Studies Program
It's been a while to write a blog because I has been suffering body itchiness for the past one month. It is still killing me and I have to be very cautious for my usual habits including eating, exercise, and mind control.
Anyway, Brian got his wisdom teeth removal surgery yesterday and it went well. Dennis just started his first day at Asian Studies Program at Georgetown as an intern. I wish it help his future career.
Their speech were very impressive and will be remembered by history. Bush's are 6 min long and Obama's are 40 min long. Both of them cited Bible scripts as I indicated below.
I wish both Brian and Dennis keep these bible verses in their minds and live well with HIM all the time. As God blessed Abraham, so does to my beloved sons!!!
Today's blog is quite long, so be patient and read to the end.
**************************************************************************************************************************
Lets start with President Obama speech first.
https://youtu.be/A5IcMdwV6Hg
He cited Rome 5:3-4 at the beginning and at the end.
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope
Also he cited two other Scripts in the middle of his message to emphasize "OPEN HEART"
Let us not love in word, neither in tongue, but in deed and in truth (1 John 3:18)
I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh (Ezekiel 36:26)
Here is the full script
Mr. President and Mrs. Bush; my friend, the Vice President, and Dr. Biden; Mayor Rawlings; Chief Spiller; clergy; members of Congress; Chief Brown -- I’m so glad I met Michelle first, because she loves Stevie Wonder -- (laughter and applause) -- but most of all, to the families and friends and colleagues and fellow officers:
Scripture tells us that in our sufferings there is glory, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. Sometimes the truths of these words are hard to see. Right now, those words test us. Because the people of Dallas, people across the country, are suffering.
We’re here to honor the memory, and mourn the loss, of five fellow Americans -- to grieve with their loved ones, to support this community, to pray for the wounded, and to try and find some meaning amidst our sorrow.
For the men and women who protect and serve the people of Dallas, last Thursday began like any other day. Like most Americans each day, you get up, probably have too quick a breakfast, kiss your family goodbye, and you head to work. But your work, and the work of police officers across the country, is like no other. For the moment you put on that uniform, you have answered a call that at any moment, even in the briefest interaction, may put your life in harm’s way.
Lorne Ahrens, he answered that call. So did his wife, Katrina -- not only because she was the spouse of a police officer, but because she’s a detective on the force. They have two kids. And Lorne took them fishing, and used to proudly go to their school in uniform. And the night before he died, he bought dinner for a homeless man. And the next night, Katrina had to tell their children that their dad was gone. “They don’t get it yet,” their grandma said. “They don’t know what to do quite yet.”
Michael Krol answered that call. His mother said, “He knew the dangers of the job, but he never shied away from his duty.” He came a thousand miles from his home state of Michigan to be a cop in Dallas, telling his family, “This is something I wanted to do.” Last year, he brought his girlfriend back to Detroit for Thanksgiving, and it was the last time he’d see his family.
Michael Smith answered that call -- in the Army, and over almost 30 years working for the Dallas Police Association, which gave him the appropriately named “Cops Cop” award. A man of deep faith, when he was off duty, he could be found at church or playing softball with his two girls. Today, his girls have lost their dad, for God has called Michael home.
Patrick Zamarripa, he answered that call. Just 32, a former altar boy who served in the Navy and dreamed of being a cop. He liked to post videos of himself and his kids on social media. And on Thursday night, while Patrick went to work, his partner Kristy posted a photo of her and their daughter at a Texas Rangers game, and tagged her partner so that he could see it while on duty.
Brent Thompson answered that call. He served his country as a Marine. And years later, as a contractor, he spent time in some of the most dangerous parts of Iraq and Afghanistan. And then a few years ago, he settled down here in Dallas for a new life of service as a transit cop. And just about two weeks ago, he married a fellow officer, their whole life together waiting before them.
Like police officers across the country, these men and their families shared a commitment to something larger than themselves. They weren’t looking for their names to be up in lights. They’d tell you the pay was decent but wouldn’t make you rich. They could have told you about the stress and long shifts, and they’d probably agree with Chief Brown when he said that cops don’t expect to hear the words "thank you" very often, especially from those who need them the most.
No, the reward comes in knowing that our entire way of life in America depends on the rule of law; that the maintenance of that law is a hard and daily labor; that in this country, we don’t have soldiers in the streets or militias setting the rules. Instead, we have public servants -- police officers -- like the men who were taken away from us.
And that’s what these five were doing last Thursday when they were assigned to protect and keep orderly a peaceful protest in response to the killing of Alton Sterling of Baton Rouge and Philando Castile of Minnesota. They were upholding the constitutional rights of this country.
For a while, the protest went on without incident. And despite the fact that police conduct was the subject of the protest, despite the fact that there must have been signs or slogans or chants with which they profoundly disagreed, these men and this department did their jobs like the professionals that they were. In fact, the police had been part of the protest’s planning. Dallas PD even posted photos on their Twitter feeds of their own officers standing among the protesters. Two officers, black and white, smiled next to a man with a sign that read, “No Justice, No Peace.”
And then, around nine o’clock, the gunfire came. Another community torn apart. More hearts broken. More questions about what caused, and what might prevent, another such tragedy.
I know that Americans are struggling right now with what we’ve witnessed over the past week. First, the shootings in Minnesota and Baton Rouge, and the protests, then the targeting of police by the shooter here -- an act not just of demented violence but of racial hatred. All of it has left us wounded, and angry, and hurt. It’s as if the deepest fault lines of our democracy have suddenly been exposed, perhaps even widened. And although we know that such divisions are not new -- though they have surely been worse in even the recent past -- that offers us little comfort.
Faced with this violence, we wonder if the divides of race in America can ever be bridged. We wonder if an African-American community that feels unfairly targeted by police, and police departments that feel unfairly maligned for doing their jobs, can ever understand each other’s experience. We turn on the TV or surf the Internet, and we can watch positions harden and lines drawn, and people retreat to their respective corners, and politicians calculate how to grab attention or avoid the fallout. We see all this, and it’s hard not to think sometimes that the center won't hold and that things might get worse.
I understand. I understand how Americans are feeling. But, Dallas, I’m here to say we must reject such despair. I’m here to insist that we are not as divided as we seem. And I know that because I know America. I know how far we’ve come against impossible odds. (Applause.) I know we’ll make it because of what I’ve experienced in my own life, what I’ve seen of this country and its people -- their goodness and decency --as President of the United States. And I know it because of what we’ve seen here in Dallas -- how all of you, out of great suffering, have shown us the meaning of perseverance and character, and hope.
When the bullets started flying, the men and women of the Dallas police, they did not flinch and they did not react recklessly. They showed incredible restraint. Helped in some cases by protesters, they evacuated the injured, isolated the shooter, and saved more lives than we will ever know. (Applause.) We mourn fewer people today because of your brave actions. (Applause.) “Everyone was helping each other,” one witness said. “It wasn’t about black or white. Everyone was picking each other up and moving them away.” See, that’s the America I know.
The police helped Shetamia Taylor as she was shot trying to shield her four sons. She said she wanted her boys to join her to protest the incidents of black men being killed. She also said to the Dallas PD, “Thank you for being heroes.” And today, her 12-year old son wants to be a cop when he grows up. That’s the America I know. (Applause.)
In the aftermath of the shooting, we’ve seen Mayor Rawlings and Chief Brown, a white man and a black man with different backgrounds, working not just to restore order and support a shaken city, a shaken department, but working together to unify a city with strength and grace and wisdom. (Applause.) And in the process, we've been reminded that the Dallas Police Department has been at the forefront of improving relations between police and the community. (Applause.) The murder rate here has fallen. Complaints of excessive force have been cut by 64 percent. The Dallas Police Department has been doing it the right way. (Applause.) And so, Mayor Rawlings and Chief Brown, on behalf of the American people, thank you for your steady leadership, thank you for your powerful example. We could not be prouder of you. (Applause.)
These men, this department -- this is the America I know. And today, in this audience, I see people who have protested on behalf of criminal justice reform grieving alongside police officers. I see people who mourn for the five officers we lost but also weep for the families of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile. In this audience, I see what’s possible -- (applause) -- I see what's possible when we recognize that we are one American family, all deserving of equal treatment, all deserving of equal respect, all children of God. That’s the America that I know.
Now, I'm not naïve. I have spoken at too many memorials during the course of this presidency. I’ve hugged too many families who have lost a loved one to senseless violence. And I've seen how a spirit of unity, born of tragedy, can gradually dissipate, overtaken by the return to business as usual, by inertia and old habits and expediency. I see how easily we slip back into our old notions, because they’re comfortable, we’re used to them. I’ve seen how inadequate words can be in bringing about lasting change. I’ve seen how inadequate my own words have been. And so I’m reminded of a passage in *John’s Gospel [First John]: Let us love not with words or speech, but with actions and in truth. If we’re to sustain the unity we need to get through these difficult times, if we are to honor these five outstanding officers who we’ve lost, then we will need to act on the truths that we know. And that’s not easy. It makes us uncomfortable. But we’re going to have to be honest with each other and ourselves.
We know that the overwhelming majority of police officers do an incredibly hard and dangerous job fairly and professionally. They are deserving of our respect and not our scorn. (Applause.) And when anyone, no matter how good their intentions may be, paints all police as biased or bigoted, we undermine those officers we depend on for our safety. And as for those who use rhetoric suggesting harm to police, even if they don’t act on it themselves -- well, they not only make the jobs of police officers even more dangerous, but they do a disservice to the very cause of justice that they claim to promote. (Applause.)
We also know that centuries of racial discrimination -- of slavery, and subjugation, and Jim Crow -- they didn’t simply vanish with the end of lawful segregation. They didn’t just stop when Dr. King made a speech, or the Voting Rights Act and the Civil Rights Act were signed. Race relations have improved dramatically in my lifetime. Those who deny it are dishonoring the struggles that helped us achieve that progress. (Applause.)
But we know -- but, America, we know that bias remains. We know it. Whether you are black or white or Hispanic or Asian or Native American or of Middle Eastern descent, we have all seen this bigotry in our own lives at some point. We’ve heard it at times in our own homes. If we’re honest, perhaps we’ve heard prejudice in our own heads and felt it in our own hearts. We know that. And while some suffer far more under racism’s burden, some feel to a far greater extent discrimination’s sting. Although most of us do our best to guard against it and teach our children better, none of us is entirely innocent. No institution is entirely immune. And that includes our police departments. We know this.
And so when African Americans from all walks of life, from different communities across the country, voice a growing despair over what they perceive to be unequal treatment; when study after study shows that whites and people of color experience the criminal justice system differently, so that if you’re black you’re more likely to be pulled over or searched or arrested, more likely to get longer sentences, more likely to get the death penalty for the same crime; when mothers and fathers raise their kids right and have “the talk” about how to respond if stopped by a police officer -- “yes, sir,” “no, sir” -- but still fear that something terrible may happen when their child walks out the door, still fear that kids being stupid and not quite doing things right might end in tragedy -- when all this takes place more than 50 years after the passage of the Civil Rights Act, we cannot simply turn away and dismiss those in peaceful protest as troublemakers or paranoid. (Applause.) We can’t simply dismiss it as a symptom of political correctness or reverse racism. To have your experience denied like that, dismissed by those in authority, dismissed perhaps even by your white friends and coworkers and fellow church members again and again and again -- it hurts. Surely we can see that, all of us.
We also know what Chief Brown has said is true: That so much of the tensions between police departments and minority communities that they serve is because we ask the police to do too much and we ask too little of ourselves. (Applause.) As a society, we choose to underinvest in decent schools. We allow poverty to fester so that entire neighborhoods offer no prospect for gainful employment. (Applause.) We refuse to fund drug treatment and mental health programs. (Applause.) We flood communities with so many guns that it is easier for a teenager to buy a Glock than get his hands on a computer or even a book -- (applause) -- and then we tell the police “you’re a social worker, you’re the parent, you’re the teacher, you’re the drug counselor.” We tell them to keep those neighborhoods in check at all costs, and do so without causing any political blowback or inconvenience. Don’t make a mistake that might disturb our own peace of mind. And then we feign surprise when, periodically, the tensions boil over.
We know these things to be true. They’ve been true for a long time. We know it. Police, you know it. Protestors, you know it. You know how dangerous some of the communities where these police officers serve are, and you pretend as if there’s no context. These things we know to be true. And if we cannot even talk about these things -- if we cannot talk honestly and openly not just in the comfort of our own circles, but with those who look different than us or bring a different perspective, then we will never break this dangerous cycle.
In the end, it's not about finding policies that work; it’s about forging consensus, and fighting cynicism, and finding the will to make change.
Can we do this? Can we find the character, as Americans, to open our hearts to each other? Can we see in each other a common humanity and a shared dignity, and recognize how our different experiences have shaped us? And it doesn’t make anybody perfectly good or perfectly bad, it just makes us human. I don’t know. I confess that sometimes I, too, experience doubt. I've been to too many of these things. I've seen too many families go through this. But then I am reminded of what the Lord tells Ezekiel: I will give you a new heart, the Lord says, and put a new spirit in you. I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.
That’s what we must pray for, each of us: a new heart. Not a heart of stone, but a heart open to the fears and hopes and challenges of our fellow citizens. That’s what we’ve seen in Dallas these past few days. That’s what we must sustain.
Because with an open heart, we can learn to stand in each other’s shoes and look at the world through each other’s eyes, so that maybe the police officer sees his own son in that teenager with a hoodie who's kind of goofing off but not dangerous -- (applause) -- and the teenager -- maybe the teenager will see in the police officer the same words and values and authority of his parents. (Applause.)
With an open heart, we can abandon the overheated rhetoric and the oversimplification that reduces whole categories of our fellow Americans not just to opponents, but to enemies.
With an open heart, those protesting for change will guard against reckless language going forward, look at the model set by the five officers we mourn today, acknowledge the progress brought about by the sincere efforts of police departments like this one in Dallas, and embark on the hard but necessary work of negotiation, the pursuit of reconciliation.
With an open heart, police departments will acknowledge that, just like the rest of us, they are not perfect; that insisting we do better to root out racial bias is not an attack on cops, but an effort to live up to our highest ideals. (Applause.) And I understand these protests -- I see them, they can be messy. Sometimes they can be hijacked by an irresponsible few. Police can get hurt. Protestors can get hurt. They can be frustrating.
But even those who dislike the phrase “Black Lives Matter,” surely we should be able to hear the pain of Alton Sterling’s family. (Applause.) We should -- when we hear a friend describe him by saying that “Whatever he cooked, he cooked enough for everybody,” that should sound familiar to us, that maybe he wasn’t so different than us, so that we can, yes, insist that his life matters. Just as we should hear the students and coworkers describe their affection for Philando Castile as a gentle soul -- “Mr. Rogers with dreadlocks,” they called him -- and know that his life mattered to a whole lot of people of all races, of all ages, and that we have to do what we can, without putting officers' lives at risk, but do better to prevent another life like his from being lost.
With an open heart, we can worry less about which side has been wronged, and worry more about joining sides to do right. (Applause.) Because the vicious killer of these police officers, they won’t be the last person who tries to make us turn on one other. The killer in Orlando wasn’t, nor was the killer in Charleston. We know there is evil in this world. That's why we need police departments. (Applause.) But as Americans, we can decide that people like this killer will ultimately fail. They will not drive us apart. We can decide to come together and make our country reflect the good inside us, the hopes and simple dreams we share.
“We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.”
For all of us, life presents challenges and suffering -- accidents, illnesses, the loss of loved ones. There are times when we are overwhelmed by sudden calamity, natural or manmade. All of us, we make mistakes. And at times we are lost. And as we get older, we learn we don’t always have control of things -- not even a President does. But we do have control over how we respond to the world. We do have control over how we treat one another.
America does not ask us to be perfect. Precisely because of our individual imperfections, our founders gave us institutions to guard against tyranny and ensure no one is above the law; a democracy that gives us the space to work through our differences and debate them peacefully, to make things better, even if it doesn’t always happen as fast as we’d like. America gives us the capacity to change.
But as the men we mourn today -- these five heroes -- knew better than most, we cannot take the blessings of this nation for granted. Only by working together can we preserve those institutions of family and community, rights and responsibilities, law and self-government that is the hallmark of this nation. For, it turns out, we do not persevere alone. Our character is not found in isolation. Hope does not arise by putting our fellow man down; it is found by lifting others up. (Applause.)
And that’s what I take away from the lives of these outstanding men. The pain we feel may not soon pass, but my faith tells me that they did not die in vain. I believe our sorrow can make us a better country. I believe our righteous anger can be transformed into more justice and more peace. Weeping may endure for a night, but I’m convinced joy comes in the morning. (Applause.) We cannot match the sacrifices made by Officers Zamarripa and Ahrens, Krol, Smith, and Thompson, but surely we can try to match their sense of service. We cannot match their courage, but we can strive to match their devotion.
May God bless their memory. May God bless this country that we love.
Thank you all. Thank you, Senator. I, too, am really pleased that President Obama and Mrs. Obama have come down to Dallas. I also want to welcome Vice President and Dr. Biden. Mr. Mayor, Chief Brown, elected officials, members of the law enforcement community: Today the nation grieves. But those of us who love Dallas and call it home have had five deaths in the family. Laura and I see members of law enforcement every day. We count them as our friends. And we know, like for every other American, that their courage is our protection and shield.
We are proud of the men we mourn – and of the community that has rallied to honor them and support the wounded. Our mayor, our police chief, and our police department have been mighty inspirations to the rest of the nation.(Applause.) These slain officers were the best among us.
Lorne Ahrens, beloved husband to Detective Katrina Ahrens and father of two.
Michael Krol, caring son, brother, uncle, nephew, and friend.
Michael Smith, U.S. Army veteran, devoted husband, and father of two.
Brent Thompson, Marine Corps vet, recently married.
Patrick Zamarripa, US Navy Reserve combat veteran, proud father, and loyal Texas Rangers fan. (Applause.)
With their deaths, we have lost so much. We are grief-stricken, heartbroken, and forever grateful.
Every officer has accepted a calling that sets them apart. Most of us imagine, if the moment called for it, that we would risk our lives to protect a spouse or a child. Those wearing the uniform assume that risk for the safety of strangers. They and their families share the unspoken knowledge that each new day can bring new dangers. But none of us were prepared – or could be prepared – for an ambush by hatred and malice. The shock of this evil still has not faded.
At times, it seems like the forces pulling us apart are stronger than the forces binding us together. Argument turns too easily into animosity. Disagreement escalates too quickly into dehumanization. Too often we judge other groups by their worst examples, while judging ourselves by our best intentions. (Applause.) And this has strained our bonds of understanding and common purpose.
But Americans, I think, have a great advantage. To renew our unity, we only need to remember our values. We have never been held together by blood or background. We are bound by things of the spirit – by shared commitments to common ideals.
At our best, we practice empathy, imagining ourselves in the lives and circumstances of others. This is the bridge across our nation’s deepest divisions. And it is not merely a matter of tolerance, but of learning from the struggles and stories of our fellow citizens, and finding our better selves in the process.
At our best, we honor the image of God we see in one another. We recognize that we are brothers and sisters, sharing the same brief moment on earth, and owing each other the loyalty of our shared humanity.
At our best, we know we have one country, one future, one destiny. We do not want the unity of grief. Nor do we want the unity of fear. We want the unity of hope, affection, and high purpose.
We know that the kind of just, humane country we want to build – that we have seen in our best dreams – is made possible when men and women in uniform stand guard. At their best, when they are trained and trusted and accountable, they free us from fear.
The Apostle Paul said, “For God gave us a spirit not of fear, but of strength and love and self-control.” Those are the best responses to fear in the life of our country. And they are the code of the peace officer.
Today, all of us feel a sense of loss – but not equally. I’d like to conclude with a word to the families, the spouses, and especially the children of the fallen. Your loved one’s time with you was too short, and they did not get the chance to properly say goodbye. But they went where duty called. They defended us, even to the end. They finished well. We will not forget what they did for us.
Your loss is unfair. We cannot explain it. We can stand beside you and share your grief. And we can pray that God will comfort you with a hope deeper than sorrow and stronger than death.
May God bless you!
Scripture tells us that in our sufferings there is glory, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. Sometimes the truths of these words are hard to see. Right now, those words test us. Because the people of Dallas, people across the country, are suffering.
We’re here to honor the memory, and mourn the loss, of five fellow Americans -- to grieve with their loved ones, to support this community, to pray for the wounded, and to try and find some meaning amidst our sorrow.
For the men and women who protect and serve the people of Dallas, last Thursday began like any other day. Like most Americans each day, you get up, probably have too quick a breakfast, kiss your family goodbye, and you head to work. But your work, and the work of police officers across the country, is like no other. For the moment you put on that uniform, you have answered a call that at any moment, even in the briefest interaction, may put your life in harm’s way.
Lorne Ahrens, he answered that call. So did his wife, Katrina -- not only because she was the spouse of a police officer, but because she’s a detective on the force. They have two kids. And Lorne took them fishing, and used to proudly go to their school in uniform. And the night before he died, he bought dinner for a homeless man. And the next night, Katrina had to tell their children that their dad was gone. “They don’t get it yet,” their grandma said. “They don’t know what to do quite yet.”
Michael Krol answered that call. His mother said, “He knew the dangers of the job, but he never shied away from his duty.” He came a thousand miles from his home state of Michigan to be a cop in Dallas, telling his family, “This is something I wanted to do.” Last year, he brought his girlfriend back to Detroit for Thanksgiving, and it was the last time he’d see his family.
Michael Smith answered that call -- in the Army, and over almost 30 years working for the Dallas Police Association, which gave him the appropriately named “Cops Cop” award. A man of deep faith, when he was off duty, he could be found at church or playing softball with his two girls. Today, his girls have lost their dad, for God has called Michael home.
Patrick Zamarripa, he answered that call. Just 32, a former altar boy who served in the Navy and dreamed of being a cop. He liked to post videos of himself and his kids on social media. And on Thursday night, while Patrick went to work, his partner Kristy posted a photo of her and their daughter at a Texas Rangers game, and tagged her partner so that he could see it while on duty.
Brent Thompson answered that call. He served his country as a Marine. And years later, as a contractor, he spent time in some of the most dangerous parts of Iraq and Afghanistan. And then a few years ago, he settled down here in Dallas for a new life of service as a transit cop. And just about two weeks ago, he married a fellow officer, their whole life together waiting before them.
Like police officers across the country, these men and their families shared a commitment to something larger than themselves. They weren’t looking for their names to be up in lights. They’d tell you the pay was decent but wouldn’t make you rich. They could have told you about the stress and long shifts, and they’d probably agree with Chief Brown when he said that cops don’t expect to hear the words "thank you" very often, especially from those who need them the most.
No, the reward comes in knowing that our entire way of life in America depends on the rule of law; that the maintenance of that law is a hard and daily labor; that in this country, we don’t have soldiers in the streets or militias setting the rules. Instead, we have public servants -- police officers -- like the men who were taken away from us.
And that’s what these five were doing last Thursday when they were assigned to protect and keep orderly a peaceful protest in response to the killing of Alton Sterling of Baton Rouge and Philando Castile of Minnesota. They were upholding the constitutional rights of this country.
For a while, the protest went on without incident. And despite the fact that police conduct was the subject of the protest, despite the fact that there must have been signs or slogans or chants with which they profoundly disagreed, these men and this department did their jobs like the professionals that they were. In fact, the police had been part of the protest’s planning. Dallas PD even posted photos on their Twitter feeds of their own officers standing among the protesters. Two officers, black and white, smiled next to a man with a sign that read, “No Justice, No Peace.”
And then, around nine o’clock, the gunfire came. Another community torn apart. More hearts broken. More questions about what caused, and what might prevent, another such tragedy.
I know that Americans are struggling right now with what we’ve witnessed over the past week. First, the shootings in Minnesota and Baton Rouge, and the protests, then the targeting of police by the shooter here -- an act not just of demented violence but of racial hatred. All of it has left us wounded, and angry, and hurt. It’s as if the deepest fault lines of our democracy have suddenly been exposed, perhaps even widened. And although we know that such divisions are not new -- though they have surely been worse in even the recent past -- that offers us little comfort.
Faced with this violence, we wonder if the divides of race in America can ever be bridged. We wonder if an African-American community that feels unfairly targeted by police, and police departments that feel unfairly maligned for doing their jobs, can ever understand each other’s experience. We turn on the TV or surf the Internet, and we can watch positions harden and lines drawn, and people retreat to their respective corners, and politicians calculate how to grab attention or avoid the fallout. We see all this, and it’s hard not to think sometimes that the center won't hold and that things might get worse.
I understand. I understand how Americans are feeling. But, Dallas, I’m here to say we must reject such despair. I’m here to insist that we are not as divided as we seem. And I know that because I know America. I know how far we’ve come against impossible odds. (Applause.) I know we’ll make it because of what I’ve experienced in my own life, what I’ve seen of this country and its people -- their goodness and decency --as President of the United States. And I know it because of what we’ve seen here in Dallas -- how all of you, out of great suffering, have shown us the meaning of perseverance and character, and hope.
When the bullets started flying, the men and women of the Dallas police, they did not flinch and they did not react recklessly. They showed incredible restraint. Helped in some cases by protesters, they evacuated the injured, isolated the shooter, and saved more lives than we will ever know. (Applause.) We mourn fewer people today because of your brave actions. (Applause.) “Everyone was helping each other,” one witness said. “It wasn’t about black or white. Everyone was picking each other up and moving them away.” See, that’s the America I know.
The police helped Shetamia Taylor as she was shot trying to shield her four sons. She said she wanted her boys to join her to protest the incidents of black men being killed. She also said to the Dallas PD, “Thank you for being heroes.” And today, her 12-year old son wants to be a cop when he grows up. That’s the America I know. (Applause.)
In the aftermath of the shooting, we’ve seen Mayor Rawlings and Chief Brown, a white man and a black man with different backgrounds, working not just to restore order and support a shaken city, a shaken department, but working together to unify a city with strength and grace and wisdom. (Applause.) And in the process, we've been reminded that the Dallas Police Department has been at the forefront of improving relations between police and the community. (Applause.) The murder rate here has fallen. Complaints of excessive force have been cut by 64 percent. The Dallas Police Department has been doing it the right way. (Applause.) And so, Mayor Rawlings and Chief Brown, on behalf of the American people, thank you for your steady leadership, thank you for your powerful example. We could not be prouder of you. (Applause.)
These men, this department -- this is the America I know. And today, in this audience, I see people who have protested on behalf of criminal justice reform grieving alongside police officers. I see people who mourn for the five officers we lost but also weep for the families of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile. In this audience, I see what’s possible -- (applause) -- I see what's possible when we recognize that we are one American family, all deserving of equal treatment, all deserving of equal respect, all children of God. That’s the America that I know.
Now, I'm not naïve. I have spoken at too many memorials during the course of this presidency. I’ve hugged too many families who have lost a loved one to senseless violence. And I've seen how a spirit of unity, born of tragedy, can gradually dissipate, overtaken by the return to business as usual, by inertia and old habits and expediency. I see how easily we slip back into our old notions, because they’re comfortable, we’re used to them. I’ve seen how inadequate words can be in bringing about lasting change. I’ve seen how inadequate my own words have been. And so I’m reminded of a passage in *John’s Gospel [First John]: Let us love not with words or speech, but with actions and in truth. If we’re to sustain the unity we need to get through these difficult times, if we are to honor these five outstanding officers who we’ve lost, then we will need to act on the truths that we know. And that’s not easy. It makes us uncomfortable. But we’re going to have to be honest with each other and ourselves.
We know that the overwhelming majority of police officers do an incredibly hard and dangerous job fairly and professionally. They are deserving of our respect and not our scorn. (Applause.) And when anyone, no matter how good their intentions may be, paints all police as biased or bigoted, we undermine those officers we depend on for our safety. And as for those who use rhetoric suggesting harm to police, even if they don’t act on it themselves -- well, they not only make the jobs of police officers even more dangerous, but they do a disservice to the very cause of justice that they claim to promote. (Applause.)
We also know that centuries of racial discrimination -- of slavery, and subjugation, and Jim Crow -- they didn’t simply vanish with the end of lawful segregation. They didn’t just stop when Dr. King made a speech, or the Voting Rights Act and the Civil Rights Act were signed. Race relations have improved dramatically in my lifetime. Those who deny it are dishonoring the struggles that helped us achieve that progress. (Applause.)
But we know -- but, America, we know that bias remains. We know it. Whether you are black or white or Hispanic or Asian or Native American or of Middle Eastern descent, we have all seen this bigotry in our own lives at some point. We’ve heard it at times in our own homes. If we’re honest, perhaps we’ve heard prejudice in our own heads and felt it in our own hearts. We know that. And while some suffer far more under racism’s burden, some feel to a far greater extent discrimination’s sting. Although most of us do our best to guard against it and teach our children better, none of us is entirely innocent. No institution is entirely immune. And that includes our police departments. We know this.
And so when African Americans from all walks of life, from different communities across the country, voice a growing despair over what they perceive to be unequal treatment; when study after study shows that whites and people of color experience the criminal justice system differently, so that if you’re black you’re more likely to be pulled over or searched or arrested, more likely to get longer sentences, more likely to get the death penalty for the same crime; when mothers and fathers raise their kids right and have “the talk” about how to respond if stopped by a police officer -- “yes, sir,” “no, sir” -- but still fear that something terrible may happen when their child walks out the door, still fear that kids being stupid and not quite doing things right might end in tragedy -- when all this takes place more than 50 years after the passage of the Civil Rights Act, we cannot simply turn away and dismiss those in peaceful protest as troublemakers or paranoid. (Applause.) We can’t simply dismiss it as a symptom of political correctness or reverse racism. To have your experience denied like that, dismissed by those in authority, dismissed perhaps even by your white friends and coworkers and fellow church members again and again and again -- it hurts. Surely we can see that, all of us.
We also know what Chief Brown has said is true: That so much of the tensions between police departments and minority communities that they serve is because we ask the police to do too much and we ask too little of ourselves. (Applause.) As a society, we choose to underinvest in decent schools. We allow poverty to fester so that entire neighborhoods offer no prospect for gainful employment. (Applause.) We refuse to fund drug treatment and mental health programs. (Applause.) We flood communities with so many guns that it is easier for a teenager to buy a Glock than get his hands on a computer or even a book -- (applause) -- and then we tell the police “you’re a social worker, you’re the parent, you’re the teacher, you’re the drug counselor.” We tell them to keep those neighborhoods in check at all costs, and do so without causing any political blowback or inconvenience. Don’t make a mistake that might disturb our own peace of mind. And then we feign surprise when, periodically, the tensions boil over.
We know these things to be true. They’ve been true for a long time. We know it. Police, you know it. Protestors, you know it. You know how dangerous some of the communities where these police officers serve are, and you pretend as if there’s no context. These things we know to be true. And if we cannot even talk about these things -- if we cannot talk honestly and openly not just in the comfort of our own circles, but with those who look different than us or bring a different perspective, then we will never break this dangerous cycle.
In the end, it's not about finding policies that work; it’s about forging consensus, and fighting cynicism, and finding the will to make change.
Can we do this? Can we find the character, as Americans, to open our hearts to each other? Can we see in each other a common humanity and a shared dignity, and recognize how our different experiences have shaped us? And it doesn’t make anybody perfectly good or perfectly bad, it just makes us human. I don’t know. I confess that sometimes I, too, experience doubt. I've been to too many of these things. I've seen too many families go through this. But then I am reminded of what the Lord tells Ezekiel: I will give you a new heart, the Lord says, and put a new spirit in you. I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.
That’s what we must pray for, each of us: a new heart. Not a heart of stone, but a heart open to the fears and hopes and challenges of our fellow citizens. That’s what we’ve seen in Dallas these past few days. That’s what we must sustain.
Because with an open heart, we can learn to stand in each other’s shoes and look at the world through each other’s eyes, so that maybe the police officer sees his own son in that teenager with a hoodie who's kind of goofing off but not dangerous -- (applause) -- and the teenager -- maybe the teenager will see in the police officer the same words and values and authority of his parents. (Applause.)
With an open heart, we can abandon the overheated rhetoric and the oversimplification that reduces whole categories of our fellow Americans not just to opponents, but to enemies.
With an open heart, those protesting for change will guard against reckless language going forward, look at the model set by the five officers we mourn today, acknowledge the progress brought about by the sincere efforts of police departments like this one in Dallas, and embark on the hard but necessary work of negotiation, the pursuit of reconciliation.
With an open heart, police departments will acknowledge that, just like the rest of us, they are not perfect; that insisting we do better to root out racial bias is not an attack on cops, but an effort to live up to our highest ideals. (Applause.) And I understand these protests -- I see them, they can be messy. Sometimes they can be hijacked by an irresponsible few. Police can get hurt. Protestors can get hurt. They can be frustrating.
But even those who dislike the phrase “Black Lives Matter,” surely we should be able to hear the pain of Alton Sterling’s family. (Applause.) We should -- when we hear a friend describe him by saying that “Whatever he cooked, he cooked enough for everybody,” that should sound familiar to us, that maybe he wasn’t so different than us, so that we can, yes, insist that his life matters. Just as we should hear the students and coworkers describe their affection for Philando Castile as a gentle soul -- “Mr. Rogers with dreadlocks,” they called him -- and know that his life mattered to a whole lot of people of all races, of all ages, and that we have to do what we can, without putting officers' lives at risk, but do better to prevent another life like his from being lost.
With an open heart, we can worry less about which side has been wronged, and worry more about joining sides to do right. (Applause.) Because the vicious killer of these police officers, they won’t be the last person who tries to make us turn on one other. The killer in Orlando wasn’t, nor was the killer in Charleston. We know there is evil in this world. That's why we need police departments. (Applause.) But as Americans, we can decide that people like this killer will ultimately fail. They will not drive us apart. We can decide to come together and make our country reflect the good inside us, the hopes and simple dreams we share.
“We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.”
For all of us, life presents challenges and suffering -- accidents, illnesses, the loss of loved ones. There are times when we are overwhelmed by sudden calamity, natural or manmade. All of us, we make mistakes. And at times we are lost. And as we get older, we learn we don’t always have control of things -- not even a President does. But we do have control over how we respond to the world. We do have control over how we treat one another.
America does not ask us to be perfect. Precisely because of our individual imperfections, our founders gave us institutions to guard against tyranny and ensure no one is above the law; a democracy that gives us the space to work through our differences and debate them peacefully, to make things better, even if it doesn’t always happen as fast as we’d like. America gives us the capacity to change.
But as the men we mourn today -- these five heroes -- knew better than most, we cannot take the blessings of this nation for granted. Only by working together can we preserve those institutions of family and community, rights and responsibilities, law and self-government that is the hallmark of this nation. For, it turns out, we do not persevere alone. Our character is not found in isolation. Hope does not arise by putting our fellow man down; it is found by lifting others up. (Applause.)
And that’s what I take away from the lives of these outstanding men. The pain we feel may not soon pass, but my faith tells me that they did not die in vain. I believe our sorrow can make us a better country. I believe our righteous anger can be transformed into more justice and more peace. Weeping may endure for a night, but I’m convinced joy comes in the morning. (Applause.) We cannot match the sacrifices made by Officers Zamarripa and Ahrens, Krol, Smith, and Thompson, but surely we can try to match their sense of service. We cannot match their courage, but we can strive to match their devotion.
May God bless their memory. May God bless this country that we love.
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Here is the President Bush
He also cited Apostle Paul in the end of his speech
"For God gave us a spirit not of fear, but of strength and love and self-control" (2 Timothy 1:7)
Here is full script for his speechThank you all. Thank you, Senator. I, too, am really pleased that President Obama and Mrs. Obama have come down to Dallas. I also want to welcome Vice President and Dr. Biden. Mr. Mayor, Chief Brown, elected officials, members of the law enforcement community: Today the nation grieves. But those of us who love Dallas and call it home have had five deaths in the family. Laura and I see members of law enforcement every day. We count them as our friends. And we know, like for every other American, that their courage is our protection and shield.
We are proud of the men we mourn – and of the community that has rallied to honor them and support the wounded. Our mayor, our police chief, and our police department have been mighty inspirations to the rest of the nation.(Applause.) These slain officers were the best among us.
Lorne Ahrens, beloved husband to Detective Katrina Ahrens and father of two.
Michael Krol, caring son, brother, uncle, nephew, and friend.
Michael Smith, U.S. Army veteran, devoted husband, and father of two.
Brent Thompson, Marine Corps vet, recently married.
Patrick Zamarripa, US Navy Reserve combat veteran, proud father, and loyal Texas Rangers fan. (Applause.)
With their deaths, we have lost so much. We are grief-stricken, heartbroken, and forever grateful.
Every officer has accepted a calling that sets them apart. Most of us imagine, if the moment called for it, that we would risk our lives to protect a spouse or a child. Those wearing the uniform assume that risk for the safety of strangers. They and their families share the unspoken knowledge that each new day can bring new dangers. But none of us were prepared – or could be prepared – for an ambush by hatred and malice. The shock of this evil still has not faded.
At times, it seems like the forces pulling us apart are stronger than the forces binding us together. Argument turns too easily into animosity. Disagreement escalates too quickly into dehumanization. Too often we judge other groups by their worst examples, while judging ourselves by our best intentions. (Applause.) And this has strained our bonds of understanding and common purpose.
But Americans, I think, have a great advantage. To renew our unity, we only need to remember our values. We have never been held together by blood or background. We are bound by things of the spirit – by shared commitments to common ideals.
At our best, we practice empathy, imagining ourselves in the lives and circumstances of others. This is the bridge across our nation’s deepest divisions. And it is not merely a matter of tolerance, but of learning from the struggles and stories of our fellow citizens, and finding our better selves in the process.
At our best, we honor the image of God we see in one another. We recognize that we are brothers and sisters, sharing the same brief moment on earth, and owing each other the loyalty of our shared humanity.
At our best, we know we have one country, one future, one destiny. We do not want the unity of grief. Nor do we want the unity of fear. We want the unity of hope, affection, and high purpose.
We know that the kind of just, humane country we want to build – that we have seen in our best dreams – is made possible when men and women in uniform stand guard. At their best, when they are trained and trusted and accountable, they free us from fear.
The Apostle Paul said, “For God gave us a spirit not of fear, but of strength and love and self-control.” Those are the best responses to fear in the life of our country. And they are the code of the peace officer.
Today, all of us feel a sense of loss – but not equally. I’d like to conclude with a word to the families, the spouses, and especially the children of the fallen. Your loved one’s time with you was too short, and they did not get the chance to properly say goodbye. But they went where duty called. They defended us, even to the end. They finished well. We will not forget what they did for us.
Your loss is unfair. We cannot explain it. We can stand beside you and share your grief. And we can pray that God will comfort you with a hope deeper than sorrow and stronger than death.
May God bless you!
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To make a long story short,
I guarantee the coming world you guys will be living in next 50 years won't be easy. I expect it will be very tough!!! As I always say "jansori" to you, I wish both of you follow the Scripture.
Remember the following verse all the time and please memorize.
Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful (Joshua 1:8)
I love you guys, Brian and Dennis with all my heart.
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in Korean
그동안 약 한달간 블로그를 쓰지 못했다. 몸이 가려워서 정신이 없었고 또 다른 여러가지 일로 인해 마음이 바빴다. 상욱이는 어제 사랑니 4개를 다 뽑는 수술을 하였고 오늘은 태욱이가 조지타운대학에서 여름 인턴쉽을 시작하는 날이기도 하다.
어제 텍사스 달라스에서는 지난주 목요일 총기사고로 희생된 5명의 경찰관을 추모하는 자리에 오바마와 부시 대통령이 참석하여 연설을 하였는데 두 사람 모두 역사에 남을만한 명연설을 하였고 특히 오바마의 연설은 지금까지 내가 들어본것중 최고였다. 형식적인 위로의 수준을 넘어서서 자기자신 내면의 인간적인 솔직함마저 피력하면서 미국사회의 화합을 요구하는 아주 멋진 연설이었다.
그리고 두사람 모두 자신들의 연설에 성경을 인용하면서 자신의 주장을 대중들에게 전달하는 모습을 보면서 역시 미국이라는 나라는 성경에 기초하여 세워진 나라임을 다시 한번 더 깨닫게 되었고, 이렇게 한 나라의 리더들이 하나님 말씀을 청종하여 나라를 이끌어 간다면 비록 미국이라는 사회가 많은 문제점을 안고 있지만 나는그 안에서 희망을 보았다.
두 사람의 연설을 이곳에 링크하면서 상욱이와 태욱이가 자라가면서 그들의 연설문과 그 안에 숨어있는 하나님의 말씀을 청종하면서 살아가기를 간절히 기도해본다.
오바마 대통령 연설 (https://youtu.be/A5IcMdwV6Hg)
연설의 시작과 끝을 로마서 5장 3-4절 말씀으로 장식하였다
"다만 이뿐 아니라 우리가 환난 중에도 즐거워하나니 이는 환난은 인내를, 인내는 연단을, 연단은 소망을 이루는 줄 앎이로다"
또한 연설문 중간에 요한일서 3:18, 에스겔36:26 을 인용하면서 우리 모두에게 "열린마음 (OPEN HEART)"의 중요성을 강조하였다.
자녀들아 우리가 말과 혀로만 사랑하지 말고 오직 행함과 진실함으로 하자 (요한일서 3:18)
"또 새 영을 너희 속에 두고 새 마음을 너희에게 주되 너희 육신에서 굳은 마음을 제하고 부드러운 마음을 줄 것이며" (에스겔36:26)
자녀들아 우리가 말과 혀로만 사랑하지 말고 오직 행함과 진실함으로 하자 (요한일서 3:18)
"또 새 영을 너희 속에 두고 새 마음을 너희에게 주되 너희 육신에서 굳은 마음을 제하고 부드러운 마음을 줄 것이며" (에스겔36:26)
그 역시 연설의 마지막을 디모데후서 1장7절 말씀으로 장식하였다
"하나님이 우리에게 주신 것은 두려워하는 마음이 아니요 오직 능력과 사랑과 절제하는 마음이니"
사랑하는 나의 두 아들 상욱이와 태욱아!
세상을 살아가면서 항상 이 말씀을 기억하고 살아가길 바란다.
여호수아 1장 8절
"이 율법책을 네 입에서 떠나지 말게 하며 주야로 그것을 묵상하여 그 가운데 기록한대로 다 지켜 행하라 그리하면 네 길이 평탄하게 될 것이라 네가 형통하리라"
2016년 6월 20일 월요일
Father-Son Hangout 7
6/19/16
Virtual online hangout for fathers day celebration
Today is fathers day and seems like nobody cares!!!
Dennis just got started his summer job at PIZZA 500 near home and Brian is still working at Howard country general hospital. Due to their working schedule, we couldn't find the time to eat all together on fathers day. They prepared a thoughtful card and gifts for me and I was delighted. Thank you!!!
Here is the virtual "jansori" again to my beloved sons, lol.
Today's topic is "perseverance and honesty" and first of all, I would like to cite Bible!
Psalm 128:1-2
1 Blessed are all who fear the lord, who walk in obedience to Him 2 You will eat the fruit of your labor; blessings and prosperity will be yours.
As an immigrant to this country, mom and I are working very hard to survive and imagine how hard it was. We landed on Dulles airport on July, 1997 with only three baggage and now we're living in a beautiful big house with two car garage. More importantly, our loving two sons are now fully grown up and ready to start your own adventures in their life.
As the script says, always be honest with you. Hard works always pays back and it worth. I guarantee there will be many temptations in your life, however stay firm and strong and believe His words.
Easy way looks very attractive and many people follows that path, but it may lead to destruction.
Whenever you encounter hardships, always stop there and take a deep breath and think about my jansori and Scripts. Patience is one kind of fruit of Spirit.
In Matthew 7:13-14
"13 Enter by the narrow gate, for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it. 14 Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life and there are few who find it"
Narrow is the gate leads to life
1) few people go in
2) but, the gate to life is only narrow for the entrance
3) once you enter it, the path will be wider
4) you will be called dumb at first. But they will respect, believe, and acknowledge your decision
5) it's not easy to seek the righteousness and the kingdom of God in the beginning, but you will get everything in the end
Wide is the gate leads to death
1) many people go in
2) but, the gate to death is only wide for the entrance
3) once you enter it, the path will be narrower
4) you will be chanted at first. But they will not believe you anymore once they finally figure out who you are
5) finally, it leads you to destruction and death
in Korean
아버지의 날이라고 지정된 6월 세번째주 일요일은 유명무실한 기념일인것 같다. 5월달에 있는 어머니의 날이 우선이고 아버지들을 지나치자니 미안한감이 있어서 그냥 만들어 놓은것 같은 인상이다. 어쨌든 아이들과 집사람이 향수세트와 french press coffee brewer를 선물해주었다. 내가 좋아하는 것들이라 평소에는 필요한것 없다고 했지만 막상 받으니 좋다, 역쉬 선물의 힘은 크다. ㅎㅎㅎ
태욱이가 집 근처 피자가게에서 일을 시작했다. 시간당 $8.50
사춘기를 지나고 있는 이 아이에게 여름방학동안에 아주 좋은 경험이 되리라 생각한다.
서로 스케줄이 맞지 않아서 따로 이야기할 시간이 없었기에 오늘의 "Father-Son Hangout"은 가상 온라인 공간에서의 잔소리 강좌, 이름하여 "Old Daddy's Endless Virtual Online Jansori"
사랑하는 아들 상욱, 태욱에게,
오늘은 "성실과 정직"에 대해서 이야기를 해주고 싶구나.
우선 성경부터 한구절 인용하면,
1 여호와를 경외하며 그 도에 행하는 자마다 복이 있도다 2네가 네 손이 수고한 대로 먹을 것이라 네가 복되고 형통하리로다 (시편 128편 1-2)
거의 20여년전에 엄마와 아빠는 이민가방 달랑3개를 들고 덜레스공항에 내린 이후 지금까지 너희들을 키우면서 정말 열심히 살아왔고 그 결과 지금은 차고가 딸린 커다란 집에서 살아가고 있고 특히 청년으로 자라버린 너희를 보면 엄마 아빠의 고생은 생각도 나질않고 정직한 땀과 수고로움이 보상받은것 같아 너무 기쁘다.
앞으로 너희에게 주어진 삶을 살아가다보면 기쁜일, 쉬운일보다는 어렵고 힘든일이 더 많을것이야. 어떻게 아냐고? 엄마 아빠가 살아봤자나.
그럴때마다, 우리 인간은 쉬운길로 가고 싶어하고 정직하지 않은 방법을 택하기가 쉬운데, 그럴때마다 아빠가 오늘 너희들에게 해준말을 반드시 기억하고 성경대로 살아가기를 바란다.
마태복음 7:13-14
“좁은 문으로 들어가라 멸망으로 인도하는 문은 크고 그 길이 넓어 그리로 들어가는 자가 많고 생명으로 인도하는 문은 좁고 길이 협착하여 찾는 자가 적음이라.”
힘든일이 생길때 그 순간에는 그것을 피하고 싶고, 쉽게 가려고 하지만, 달려가는 길을 한박자 멈추고 깊게 숨을 들이쉬면서 삶을 멀리 내다보고 기다리는 연습을 하거라.
참고 기다리는것도 하나님이 주시는 성령의 열매임을 잊지말고 항상 올바른 길로 걸어가길 바란다.
생명으로 인도하는 문은 좁다
1) 들어가는 이가 적다
2)그러나 생명으로 인도하는 길과 문은 입구만 좁다
3) 처음엔 힘들어도 죽으면 죽으리라 각오하고 참고 고집하면 점점 길과 문이 넓어진다
4) 처음엔 사람들이 바보인줄 알지만 시간이 가면 갈 수록 그를 신뢰하게 된다. 그리고 인정하게 된다. 결국에는 존경하게 된다
5)먼저 하나님의 나라와 의를 구하는 것이 쉽지 않지만 그렇게 하면 세상의 모든 것이 더하여지게 된다
사망으로 인도하는 문은 넓다
1)그리로 들어가는 이가 많다
2)그러나 사망으로 인도하는 길과 문은 입구만 넓다
3)시간이 가면 갈수록 길과 문은 좁아진다.
4)그의 사람됨이 점점드러나고 들통이 나기 때문에 어느 누구도 그를 신뢰하지 않게 된다
5)그래서 결국 사망에 이르게 되는 것이다.
(좁은문 이야기는 김동호목사 페이스북 마나하임36 에서 인용함)
Virtual online hangout for fathers day celebration
Today is fathers day and seems like nobody cares!!!
Dennis just got started his summer job at PIZZA 500 near home and Brian is still working at Howard country general hospital. Due to their working schedule, we couldn't find the time to eat all together on fathers day. They prepared a thoughtful card and gifts for me and I was delighted. Thank you!!!
Here is the virtual "jansori" again to my beloved sons, lol.
Today's topic is "perseverance and honesty" and first of all, I would like to cite Bible!
Psalm 128:1-2
1 Blessed are all who fear the lord, who walk in obedience to Him 2 You will eat the fruit of your labor; blessings and prosperity will be yours.
As an immigrant to this country, mom and I are working very hard to survive and imagine how hard it was. We landed on Dulles airport on July, 1997 with only three baggage and now we're living in a beautiful big house with two car garage. More importantly, our loving two sons are now fully grown up and ready to start your own adventures in their life.
As the script says, always be honest with you. Hard works always pays back and it worth. I guarantee there will be many temptations in your life, however stay firm and strong and believe His words.
Easy way looks very attractive and many people follows that path, but it may lead to destruction.
Whenever you encounter hardships, always stop there and take a deep breath and think about my jansori and Scripts. Patience is one kind of fruit of Spirit.
In Matthew 7:13-14
"13 Enter by the narrow gate, for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it. 14 Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life and there are few who find it"
Narrow is the gate leads to life
1) few people go in
2) but, the gate to life is only narrow for the entrance
3) once you enter it, the path will be wider
4) you will be called dumb at first. But they will respect, believe, and acknowledge your decision
5) it's not easy to seek the righteousness and the kingdom of God in the beginning, but you will get everything in the end
Wide is the gate leads to death
1) many people go in
2) but, the gate to death is only wide for the entrance
3) once you enter it, the path will be narrower
4) you will be chanted at first. But they will not believe you anymore once they finally figure out who you are
5) finally, it leads you to destruction and death
in Korean
아버지의 날이라고 지정된 6월 세번째주 일요일은 유명무실한 기념일인것 같다. 5월달에 있는 어머니의 날이 우선이고 아버지들을 지나치자니 미안한감이 있어서 그냥 만들어 놓은것 같은 인상이다. 어쨌든 아이들과 집사람이 향수세트와 french press coffee brewer를 선물해주었다. 내가 좋아하는 것들이라 평소에는 필요한것 없다고 했지만 막상 받으니 좋다, 역쉬 선물의 힘은 크다. ㅎㅎㅎ
태욱이가 집 근처 피자가게에서 일을 시작했다. 시간당 $8.50
사춘기를 지나고 있는 이 아이에게 여름방학동안에 아주 좋은 경험이 되리라 생각한다.
서로 스케줄이 맞지 않아서 따로 이야기할 시간이 없었기에 오늘의 "Father-Son Hangout"은 가상 온라인 공간에서의 잔소리 강좌, 이름하여 "Old Daddy's Endless Virtual Online Jansori"
사랑하는 아들 상욱, 태욱에게,
오늘은 "성실과 정직"에 대해서 이야기를 해주고 싶구나.
우선 성경부터 한구절 인용하면,
1 여호와를 경외하며 그 도에 행하는 자마다 복이 있도다 2네가 네 손이 수고한 대로 먹을 것이라 네가 복되고 형통하리로다 (시편 128편 1-2)
거의 20여년전에 엄마와 아빠는 이민가방 달랑3개를 들고 덜레스공항에 내린 이후 지금까지 너희들을 키우면서 정말 열심히 살아왔고 그 결과 지금은 차고가 딸린 커다란 집에서 살아가고 있고 특히 청년으로 자라버린 너희를 보면 엄마 아빠의 고생은 생각도 나질않고 정직한 땀과 수고로움이 보상받은것 같아 너무 기쁘다.
앞으로 너희에게 주어진 삶을 살아가다보면 기쁜일, 쉬운일보다는 어렵고 힘든일이 더 많을것이야. 어떻게 아냐고? 엄마 아빠가 살아봤자나.
그럴때마다, 우리 인간은 쉬운길로 가고 싶어하고 정직하지 않은 방법을 택하기가 쉬운데, 그럴때마다 아빠가 오늘 너희들에게 해준말을 반드시 기억하고 성경대로 살아가기를 바란다.
마태복음 7:13-14
“좁은 문으로 들어가라 멸망으로 인도하는 문은 크고 그 길이 넓어 그리로 들어가는 자가 많고 생명으로 인도하는 문은 좁고 길이 협착하여 찾는 자가 적음이라.”
힘든일이 생길때 그 순간에는 그것을 피하고 싶고, 쉽게 가려고 하지만, 달려가는 길을 한박자 멈추고 깊게 숨을 들이쉬면서 삶을 멀리 내다보고 기다리는 연습을 하거라.
참고 기다리는것도 하나님이 주시는 성령의 열매임을 잊지말고 항상 올바른 길로 걸어가길 바란다.
생명으로 인도하는 문은 좁다
1) 들어가는 이가 적다
2)그러나 생명으로 인도하는 길과 문은 입구만 좁다
3) 처음엔 힘들어도 죽으면 죽으리라 각오하고 참고 고집하면 점점 길과 문이 넓어진다
4) 처음엔 사람들이 바보인줄 알지만 시간이 가면 갈 수록 그를 신뢰하게 된다. 그리고 인정하게 된다. 결국에는 존경하게 된다
5)먼저 하나님의 나라와 의를 구하는 것이 쉽지 않지만 그렇게 하면 세상의 모든 것이 더하여지게 된다
사망으로 인도하는 문은 넓다
1)그리로 들어가는 이가 많다
2)그러나 사망으로 인도하는 길과 문은 입구만 넓다
3)시간이 가면 갈수록 길과 문은 좁아진다.
4)그의 사람됨이 점점드러나고 들통이 나기 때문에 어느 누구도 그를 신뢰하지 않게 된다
5)그래서 결국 사망에 이르게 되는 것이다.
(좁은문 이야기는 김동호목사 페이스북 마나하임36 에서 인용함)
2016년 6월 10일 금요일
Father-Son Hangout 6
6/10/16
at Pho Thom and Kungfu Tea at College Park
I had suffered from allergy last night and couldn't sleep not more than 2 hr. I woke up at 1 am and hung around watching pastor Yoo's sermon on Youtube (actually it was very impressive)
https://youtu.be/pd9P-Y2ZRcA?list=PLtlffkLs76iRmSSTrzgVQfhUe0RFwDQ2e
When I tried to go back to sleep around 3:30 am, I received Tumblr notification which indicating Brian posted new blog.
http://fromwherebkstands.tumblr.com/post/145696537918/post-73-a-season-of-renewal
I replied to him citing Hebrews 11:8, "By faith Abraham, when he was called to go out into a place which he should after receive for an inheritance, obeyed; and he went out, not knowing whether he went".
Thinking of Brian and Dennis in sleep mode, God showed me two rainbows in my dream which I believe their future with promise by saying "Don't worry, your sons are protected and guided with me all the time". That reminds me of Genesis 9:13 " I have set my rainbow in the clouds and it will be the sign of the covenant between me and the earth".
After I attended early morning prayer at church, I had worked hard at the lab to finish all the lab experiments before 11 am in order to get to College Park to hang out with Brian for lunch.
We went to Pho Thom restaurant and stopped by not-yet-opened brand new bubble tea shop named Kungfu Tea where Brian's friend Dan was working. It was my first time experience getting bubble tea and we spent a good time to talk about his summer MCAT classes, works at hospital, travel plan to LA on August, and work out at gym.
I had a thought in my mind re:tithe. As I couldn't pay tithe to church (actually 5% for church offering and 5% for parents allowance), I think it requires training since you are young, particularly before you make real income regularly. Whatever amount you earn in the future, be always think about save 1/10 of your income and consider it as God gave you to help other people. For practical point, I think it's a good idea to make two separate bank accounts, 90% for your regular expenditure and 10% for tithes.
God is always good and today He showed me a PROMISE for my sons with two bright rainbows.
in Korean
가려움증으로 인해 잠을 설치다가 새벽1시경에 침대에서 일어나 온수샤워를 한후에 다시 잠을 청해보았으나 전날 자기전에 마신 espresso shot 때문인지 눈이 말똥말똥. 유투브를 들여보다가 유기성 목사의 설교 한편을 골라 베게옆에 두고 원래 목적은 듣다가 잠이 스스로 들기를 바랬는데, 말씀이 너무 파워풀해서 듣다가 나도 모르게 일어나 앉아서 전체를 다 듣고 성령충만!
시계를 보니 새벽3시반. 한시간만 눈을 붙이고 새벽기도에 가려고 했는데 갑자기 스마트폰에서 딩동하면서 알림창이 뜨는데 상욱이가 블로그를 업로드하였던것이다. 작년 사순절때 시작한 "40 days-SNS media free blogging"을 계기로 자기의 삶을 글로써 정리하고 표현하고 있는데, 대학3학년을 마치고 긴 여름방학을 시작하면서 자기의 생각을 적은것으로 매번 다짐을 하면서 살아가지만 돌아보면 그 자리인것 같고 (내가 보기에는 그렇게 보이지 않고 조금씩 조금씩 성장하는 모습이 보이는데) 앞으로의 삶도 불확실해보이고 등등...이번 여름방학동안에는 약간의 시간적 여유도 있으니까 학기중보다는 더 자주 블로그를 써가면서 자신을 성찰해야겠다는 내용이었고 이번 블로그 타이틀도 "A Season of Renewal"
상욱이의 블로그를 읽고나니 아이의 생각이 기특하여 잠 자는것을 포기하고 댓글을 달아주었다. 내가 좋아하여 암송하고 있는 히브리서 11장 전반부의 말씀중 8절에 나오는 아브라함 이야기.
"믿음으로 아브라함은 부르심을 받았을때에 순종하여 장래의 유업으로 받을땅에 나아갈새 갈 바를 알지못하고 나아갔으며"
"상욱아, 믿음의 조상인 아브라함조차도 부르심을 받아 본토친척아비집을 떠날때에 자기가 가야할곳을 알지 못한채 나아갔듯이 인생이 그런것이란다. 너에게 주어진 삶이 때로는 힘들고 포기하고 싶을때가 있어도 순간을 참고 먼길을 내다보며 한걸음 한걸음 나아가는것이 예수 그리스도를 믿는 믿음이란다. 하나님께서는 그가 자기를 찾는자들에게 상 주시는 이심을 믿어야하고, 더군더나 너는 이미 오래전에 하나님께서 너와 항상 함께 하실테니 걱정하지 말라고 하셨던 "성령체험"도 하지 않았니? 그러니 아빠는 니가 너의 앞으로의 인생에서 하나님을 바라보고 참고 견디며 잘 살아가리라 믿어 의심치 않는다. 아빠는 그런 생각을 하면서 항상 자기를 점검하고 내면성찰을 하고 있는 니가 무척이나 자랑스럽다" 라고 댓글을 올렸다
댓글을 올리고 나니 4시. 잠깐 눈을 붙이려는데 잠은 오지않고 머릿속에는 상욱이와 태욱이 생각이 가득! 깜빡 잠이 든것 같은데 저 멀리서 커다란 반원의 무지개 2개가 보이는데 너무나 아름웠다. 그리고 시계를 보니 4시반. 기상시간이었다.
샤워를 하는데 창세기에 나오는 노아의 홍수심판후에 하나님께서 보여주신 무지개가 생각이 나면서, 두 아이에 대한 하나님의 약속과 보호하심이 가슴속 가득히 몰려들면서 저절로 "하나님 감사합니다"
새벽기도후에 학교로 가면서, 오전에 얼른 일을 마치고 점심때 상욱이 한때 가서 밥이나 사줘야겠다는 생각에 부리나케 실험을 마치고 College Park로 달려가 Pho를 먹으며 이런 저런 이야기(나의 십일조 생각 포함)를 나누고 집으로 돌아왔다.
가려움으로 잠은 설쳐서 몸은 피곤하였지만, 대신에 하나님을 또 만날수 있었고 그리고 아들과 같이 시간을 보낼수 있어서 참 좋았다. 정말로~~~
at Pho Thom and Kungfu Tea at College Park
I had suffered from allergy last night and couldn't sleep not more than 2 hr. I woke up at 1 am and hung around watching pastor Yoo's sermon on Youtube (actually it was very impressive)
https://youtu.be/pd9P-Y2ZRcA?list=PLtlffkLs76iRmSSTrzgVQfhUe0RFwDQ2e
When I tried to go back to sleep around 3:30 am, I received Tumblr notification which indicating Brian posted new blog.
http://fromwherebkstands.tumblr.com/post/145696537918/post-73-a-season-of-renewal
I replied to him citing Hebrews 11:8, "By faith Abraham, when he was called to go out into a place which he should after receive for an inheritance, obeyed; and he went out, not knowing whether he went".
Thinking of Brian and Dennis in sleep mode, God showed me two rainbows in my dream which I believe their future with promise by saying "Don't worry, your sons are protected and guided with me all the time". That reminds me of Genesis 9:13 " I have set my rainbow in the clouds and it will be the sign of the covenant between me and the earth".
After I attended early morning prayer at church, I had worked hard at the lab to finish all the lab experiments before 11 am in order to get to College Park to hang out with Brian for lunch.
We went to Pho Thom restaurant and stopped by not-yet-opened brand new bubble tea shop named Kungfu Tea where Brian's friend Dan was working. It was my first time experience getting bubble tea and we spent a good time to talk about his summer MCAT classes, works at hospital, travel plan to LA on August, and work out at gym.
I had a thought in my mind re:tithe. As I couldn't pay tithe to church (actually 5% for church offering and 5% for parents allowance), I think it requires training since you are young, particularly before you make real income regularly. Whatever amount you earn in the future, be always think about save 1/10 of your income and consider it as God gave you to help other people. For practical point, I think it's a good idea to make two separate bank accounts, 90% for your regular expenditure and 10% for tithes.
God is always good and today He showed me a PROMISE for my sons with two bright rainbows.
in Korean
가려움증으로 인해 잠을 설치다가 새벽1시경에 침대에서 일어나 온수샤워를 한후에 다시 잠을 청해보았으나 전날 자기전에 마신 espresso shot 때문인지 눈이 말똥말똥. 유투브를 들여보다가 유기성 목사의 설교 한편을 골라 베게옆에 두고 원래 목적은 듣다가 잠이 스스로 들기를 바랬는데, 말씀이 너무 파워풀해서 듣다가 나도 모르게 일어나 앉아서 전체를 다 듣고 성령충만!
시계를 보니 새벽3시반. 한시간만 눈을 붙이고 새벽기도에 가려고 했는데 갑자기 스마트폰에서 딩동하면서 알림창이 뜨는데 상욱이가 블로그를 업로드하였던것이다. 작년 사순절때 시작한 "40 days-SNS media free blogging"을 계기로 자기의 삶을 글로써 정리하고 표현하고 있는데, 대학3학년을 마치고 긴 여름방학을 시작하면서 자기의 생각을 적은것으로 매번 다짐을 하면서 살아가지만 돌아보면 그 자리인것 같고 (내가 보기에는 그렇게 보이지 않고 조금씩 조금씩 성장하는 모습이 보이는데) 앞으로의 삶도 불확실해보이고 등등...이번 여름방학동안에는 약간의 시간적 여유도 있으니까 학기중보다는 더 자주 블로그를 써가면서 자신을 성찰해야겠다는 내용이었고 이번 블로그 타이틀도 "A Season of Renewal"
상욱이의 블로그를 읽고나니 아이의 생각이 기특하여 잠 자는것을 포기하고 댓글을 달아주었다. 내가 좋아하여 암송하고 있는 히브리서 11장 전반부의 말씀중 8절에 나오는 아브라함 이야기.
"믿음으로 아브라함은 부르심을 받았을때에 순종하여 장래의 유업으로 받을땅에 나아갈새 갈 바를 알지못하고 나아갔으며"
"상욱아, 믿음의 조상인 아브라함조차도 부르심을 받아 본토친척아비집을 떠날때에 자기가 가야할곳을 알지 못한채 나아갔듯이 인생이 그런것이란다. 너에게 주어진 삶이 때로는 힘들고 포기하고 싶을때가 있어도 순간을 참고 먼길을 내다보며 한걸음 한걸음 나아가는것이 예수 그리스도를 믿는 믿음이란다. 하나님께서는 그가 자기를 찾는자들에게 상 주시는 이심을 믿어야하고, 더군더나 너는 이미 오래전에 하나님께서 너와 항상 함께 하실테니 걱정하지 말라고 하셨던 "성령체험"도 하지 않았니? 그러니 아빠는 니가 너의 앞으로의 인생에서 하나님을 바라보고 참고 견디며 잘 살아가리라 믿어 의심치 않는다. 아빠는 그런 생각을 하면서 항상 자기를 점검하고 내면성찰을 하고 있는 니가 무척이나 자랑스럽다" 라고 댓글을 올렸다
댓글을 올리고 나니 4시. 잠깐 눈을 붙이려는데 잠은 오지않고 머릿속에는 상욱이와 태욱이 생각이 가득! 깜빡 잠이 든것 같은데 저 멀리서 커다란 반원의 무지개 2개가 보이는데 너무나 아름웠다. 그리고 시계를 보니 4시반. 기상시간이었다.
샤워를 하는데 창세기에 나오는 노아의 홍수심판후에 하나님께서 보여주신 무지개가 생각이 나면서, 두 아이에 대한 하나님의 약속과 보호하심이 가슴속 가득히 몰려들면서 저절로 "하나님 감사합니다"
새벽기도후에 학교로 가면서, 오전에 얼른 일을 마치고 점심때 상욱이 한때 가서 밥이나 사줘야겠다는 생각에 부리나케 실험을 마치고 College Park로 달려가 Pho를 먹으며 이런 저런 이야기(나의 십일조 생각 포함)를 나누고 집으로 돌아왔다.
가려움으로 잠은 설쳐서 몸은 피곤하였지만, 대신에 하나님을 또 만날수 있었고 그리고 아들과 같이 시간을 보낼수 있어서 참 좋았다. 정말로~~~
2016년 6월 6일 월요일
Father-Son Hangout 5
6/5/16
Actually this is whole family hangout b/c today is my 23rd wedding anniversary!
Today we went to Stanford Grill at Rockville to celebrate our 23rd wedding anniversary. We had a great time together and talks a lot about the immigration journey during the past decades. On the way to the restaurant, Euna asked me what if we had 4 children instead two? We both agreed it must be okay and it would be another blessing to us. We worked hard to raise up our boys in this country w/o any helps from our immediate family members and I guess we deserved the dinner tonight which I paid the most expensive one we ever had.

Bri-Den, you guys are very special and wonderful gifts from God and both of you are grown up very well and mom and dad are very proud of you.
As I always do, I cannot skip my preach to my sons but very short this time.
" Be a man with real power, not fake power"
The "REAL POWER" includes,
- not showing off (no bragging)
- be humble
- do not brag you are rich: be rich is different than live well
(너의 가진것을 자랑하지말고 너의 사람됨을 자랑하는 사람이 되거라)
- build up spiritual power inside your mind
- physically strong
- mentally strong
- emotionally strong
- intellectually strong
- religiously strong (these 5 things are cited from "Tell it how it is")
I am very blessed to have both of you as my sons and sure it is the bless from God.
I'm so very much proud of you and love you guys.
I pray for you every morning,
- pray for Brian will be a "man of faith" (믿음의 사람)
- pray for Dennis will be a "man of righteousness" (의로운 사람)
Looking forward to another father-son hangouts this summer and many more boring preaches are also coming too. lol
Actually this is whole family hangout b/c today is my 23rd wedding anniversary!
Today we went to Stanford Grill at Rockville to celebrate our 23rd wedding anniversary. We had a great time together and talks a lot about the immigration journey during the past decades. On the way to the restaurant, Euna asked me what if we had 4 children instead two? We both agreed it must be okay and it would be another blessing to us. We worked hard to raise up our boys in this country w/o any helps from our immediate family members and I guess we deserved the dinner tonight which I paid the most expensive one we ever had.

Bri-Den, you guys are very special and wonderful gifts from God and both of you are grown up very well and mom and dad are very proud of you.
As I always do, I cannot skip my preach to my sons but very short this time.
" Be a man with real power, not fake power"
The "REAL POWER" includes,
- not showing off (no bragging)
- be humble
- do not brag you are rich: be rich is different than live well
(너의 가진것을 자랑하지말고 너의 사람됨을 자랑하는 사람이 되거라)
- build up spiritual power inside your mind
- physically strong
- mentally strong
- emotionally strong
- intellectually strong
- religiously strong (these 5 things are cited from "Tell it how it is")
I am very blessed to have both of you as my sons and sure it is the bless from God.
I'm so very much proud of you and love you guys.
I pray for you every morning,
- pray for Brian will be a "man of faith" (믿음의 사람)
- pray for Dennis will be a "man of righteousness" (의로운 사람)
Looking forward to another father-son hangouts this summer and many more boring preaches are also coming too. lol
2016년 5월 28일 토요일
Father-Son Hangout 4
5/27/16
The day Dennis got an internship offer from Asian Studies Program at Georgetown University
오늘 태욱이가 인턴쉽 오퍼를 받았다. 그동안 여러군데에 인턴쉽을 지원했었는데 대부분 거절당하고 낙담하고 있던차에 너무나 좋은 소식을 받아서 기쁘다. 무엇보다도 태욱이의 자존감이 회복된것 같아서 다행이다 (거절당함에서 오는 낮아진 자신감이 걱정이었기에 더더욱 기쁘다).
이 날을 축하하기 위해 둘이서 맥주파티를 벌이면서 300회 특집 런닝맨을 보았다.
내가 태욱이에게 전해준 오늘의 메세지는 "앞으로 성인이 되어서 술을 마시더라도 반드시 적당히 마시고 조절하면서 취하지 않도록 조심해야한다" 였다
마음속에 담아둔 더 많은 이야기가 많았지만 분위를 깰것 같아서 오늘 아이에게 전해준 아빠의 메세지는 딱 여기까지만! ㅠㅠ
이 날을 축하하기 위해 둘이서 맥주파티를 벌이면서 300회 특집 런닝맨을 보았다.
내가 태욱이에게 전해준 오늘의 메세지는 "앞으로 성인이 되어서 술을 마시더라도 반드시 적당히 마시고 조절하면서 취하지 않도록 조심해야한다" 였다
마음속에 담아둔 더 많은 이야기가 많았지만 분위를 깰것 같아서 오늘 아이에게 전해준 아빠의 메세지는 딱 여기까지만! ㅠㅠ
2016년 5월 21일 토요일
Father-Son Hangout 3
5/21/16
After prom party hangout with Dennis at Pho Grill
태욱이의 junior prom party가 어제 있었다. Poolesville 지역 특성상 백인들만의 파티에 초대된 기분으로 아무리 미국에 오래 살았어도 적응되지 않는 불편함을 뭐라 표현할까?
어찌되었던간에 prom party가 아무런 사고 없이 무사히 잘 끝나고 보드카를 양껏? 마신 태욱이를 해장시켜줄겸 평소에 우리가 자주 가는 G'burg Pho Grill에 가서 점심을 마치고 돌아왔다.
마침 오늘은 은아와 상욱이가 처형이 있는 Austin, Texas로 일주일간 여행을 떠난 날이기도 하기에 태욱이와 있는 시간도 여유롭게 즐길수 있었다.
Poolsville-G'burg-Home으로 오고가는 차안에서 그리고 밥을 함께 먹으면서 아이에게 전해준 이야기는 아빠와 엄마가 아이들을 키우면서 가르쳐주고 싶은 것들에 관하여!
태욱아
아빠가 늘 이야기하듯이 세상을 살아가면서 삶을 바라보는 시각을 넓게 가지거라. 사건이나 사물을 바라보거나 어떤 경험을 하고 느낄때 그 순간만을 보지말고 과거와 미래를 함께 볼줄 아는 지혜를 가지거라. 현재를 충실하게 살아내는것도 중요하지만 지금 당장 일어난 일에 대하여 걱정하거나 너무 흥분하지말고 시간이 흘러갔을때 지금 네가 겪고 있는 것들이 과연 어떻게 변할까에 대해서 생각해보거라. 대부분의 경우는 기억도 나지 않을것이며 네가 당장 어제 경험한 prom party도 그것이 지나고 나니까 거기에 대한 기대와 흥분이 하룻만에 식어버리듯이 앞으로 네가 살아갈 인생여정속에서도 비슷한 일들이 수없이 많이 반복될것이야. 한순간의 짦은 경험속에 매달리지말고 하늘에 올라가서 땅을 내려다보듯이 너의 삶을 넓은 시각과 관점에서 바라보는 훈련을 하거라. 그리하면 힘든것을 참을수 있는 인내도 배우게 되고 남을 배려해줄수 있는 관용도 배우고 너의 삶속에서 여유로움이 묻어날것이란다.
엄마 아빠의 입장에서 요즘같은 세상에 네가 prom party에 간다고 했을때 아무 생각없이 보내주는것은 아니란다. Dad is liberal and mom is conservative, right? There are so many issues at the prom party these days such as alcohol, drugs, and sex. As a parents, mom and dad are all concerned about it and pondering wheather let you go or not.
아빠는 개방적인 생각을 가지고 있기에 여러가지 위험 요소가 있어도 너희가 직접 경험해보고 몸으로 느끼면서 좋고 나쁜것을 스스로 알아가면서 독립적인 인격체로 성장하기 바라는것이고 엄마는 너희를 너무도 사랑하기때문에 아직 판단력이 부족한 너희가 어느정도 클때까지는 하고 싶은것을 자제시킬려고 하는것이지 it is not the matter of good or bad.
I wish you will be independent and grown up as a single man through the activities such as prom party, beach week, hangout with your friends, travel w/o us etc...
물론 이런 것들을 통해서 안좋은 일들이 일어날수는 있지만 그것은 아무도 모르는것이라고 생각한다. 물론 너희를 아무것도 못하게 가둬서 키운다면 그런 안좋은 일들을 겪을 확률이 떨어지겠지만 그것을 위해 너희가 경험을 통해 얻을수 있는 값진 경험을 대신할수는 없다는것이 아빠의 생각이란다. 설령 안좋은 일이 일어나더라도 아빠는 능동적으로 잘 대처할수 있을것 같기에 그리고 하나님이 너희들을 잘 이끌어 주실것이라는 확신으로 너희들을 키운다.
그렇다고 엄마가 너희들이 하고싶은 일에 대해서 이런 저런 말씀을 하셔도 그것을 잔소리라고 생각을 해서는 안된다. 그런 잔소리가 너에게 지금 당장은 "고난"으로 여길수도 있지만 아빠가 앞에서 말했듯이 인생을 조금만 넓게 그리고 앞을 바라보면 그것은 "foresight"이고, 깊게 생각한다면 그것은 "insight"이란다. 이러한 선견(foresight)과 통찰력(insight)을 기르면 지금 당장 듣기 싫은 엄마의 잔소리도 너에게 도움이 되는 아주 귀중한 경험이 될것이고 엄마의 사랑을 너희가 더 깊이 이해하게 될것이라고 믿는다.
아빠는 그것을 조화(balance)라고 본다. 또 그것이 부모로서 너희에게 반드시 해주어야할 책임이라고 생각한다. One parent is open and liberal and the other is conservative!
그것을 통해서 너희들이 균형있게 자랄수 있다고 확신한다. 어느 누가 좋고 나쁜것이 아니라 오히려 그런 부모를 통해서 인생을 지혜롭게 바라보는 능력을 배우고 이것이 하나님이 이 세상에 음과 양을 만드신 목적이라고 생각하고 아빠 엄마 모두 너희들을 하늘만큼 땅만큼 사랑한다는 점에서는 공통분모를 이룬다.
마지막으로 성경에서 한구절을 인용하니 꼭 마음에 간직하거라
좌로나 우로나 치우치지 말고 네 발을 악에서 떠나게 하라 (잠언 4:27)
Do not swerve to the right or the left, keep your foot from evil (Proverbs 4:27)
After prom party hangout with Dennis at Pho Grill
태욱이의 junior prom party가 어제 있었다. Poolesville 지역 특성상 백인들만의 파티에 초대된 기분으로 아무리 미국에 오래 살았어도 적응되지 않는 불편함을 뭐라 표현할까?
어찌되었던간에 prom party가 아무런 사고 없이 무사히 잘 끝나고 보드카를 양껏? 마신 태욱이를 해장시켜줄겸 평소에 우리가 자주 가는 G'burg Pho Grill에 가서 점심을 마치고 돌아왔다.
마침 오늘은 은아와 상욱이가 처형이 있는 Austin, Texas로 일주일간 여행을 떠난 날이기도 하기에 태욱이와 있는 시간도 여유롭게 즐길수 있었다.
Poolsville-G'burg-Home으로 오고가는 차안에서 그리고 밥을 함께 먹으면서 아이에게 전해준 이야기는 아빠와 엄마가 아이들을 키우면서 가르쳐주고 싶은 것들에 관하여!
태욱아
아빠가 늘 이야기하듯이 세상을 살아가면서 삶을 바라보는 시각을 넓게 가지거라. 사건이나 사물을 바라보거나 어떤 경험을 하고 느낄때 그 순간만을 보지말고 과거와 미래를 함께 볼줄 아는 지혜를 가지거라. 현재를 충실하게 살아내는것도 중요하지만 지금 당장 일어난 일에 대하여 걱정하거나 너무 흥분하지말고 시간이 흘러갔을때 지금 네가 겪고 있는 것들이 과연 어떻게 변할까에 대해서 생각해보거라. 대부분의 경우는 기억도 나지 않을것이며 네가 당장 어제 경험한 prom party도 그것이 지나고 나니까 거기에 대한 기대와 흥분이 하룻만에 식어버리듯이 앞으로 네가 살아갈 인생여정속에서도 비슷한 일들이 수없이 많이 반복될것이야. 한순간의 짦은 경험속에 매달리지말고 하늘에 올라가서 땅을 내려다보듯이 너의 삶을 넓은 시각과 관점에서 바라보는 훈련을 하거라. 그리하면 힘든것을 참을수 있는 인내도 배우게 되고 남을 배려해줄수 있는 관용도 배우고 너의 삶속에서 여유로움이 묻어날것이란다.
엄마 아빠의 입장에서 요즘같은 세상에 네가 prom party에 간다고 했을때 아무 생각없이 보내주는것은 아니란다. Dad is liberal and mom is conservative, right? There are so many issues at the prom party these days such as alcohol, drugs, and sex. As a parents, mom and dad are all concerned about it and pondering wheather let you go or not.
아빠는 개방적인 생각을 가지고 있기에 여러가지 위험 요소가 있어도 너희가 직접 경험해보고 몸으로 느끼면서 좋고 나쁜것을 스스로 알아가면서 독립적인 인격체로 성장하기 바라는것이고 엄마는 너희를 너무도 사랑하기때문에 아직 판단력이 부족한 너희가 어느정도 클때까지는 하고 싶은것을 자제시킬려고 하는것이지 it is not the matter of good or bad.
I wish you will be independent and grown up as a single man through the activities such as prom party, beach week, hangout with your friends, travel w/o us etc...
물론 이런 것들을 통해서 안좋은 일들이 일어날수는 있지만 그것은 아무도 모르는것이라고 생각한다. 물론 너희를 아무것도 못하게 가둬서 키운다면 그런 안좋은 일들을 겪을 확률이 떨어지겠지만 그것을 위해 너희가 경험을 통해 얻을수 있는 값진 경험을 대신할수는 없다는것이 아빠의 생각이란다. 설령 안좋은 일이 일어나더라도 아빠는 능동적으로 잘 대처할수 있을것 같기에 그리고 하나님이 너희들을 잘 이끌어 주실것이라는 확신으로 너희들을 키운다.
그렇다고 엄마가 너희들이 하고싶은 일에 대해서 이런 저런 말씀을 하셔도 그것을 잔소리라고 생각을 해서는 안된다. 그런 잔소리가 너에게 지금 당장은 "고난"으로 여길수도 있지만 아빠가 앞에서 말했듯이 인생을 조금만 넓게 그리고 앞을 바라보면 그것은 "foresight"이고, 깊게 생각한다면 그것은 "insight"이란다. 이러한 선견(foresight)과 통찰력(insight)을 기르면 지금 당장 듣기 싫은 엄마의 잔소리도 너에게 도움이 되는 아주 귀중한 경험이 될것이고 엄마의 사랑을 너희가 더 깊이 이해하게 될것이라고 믿는다.
아빠는 그것을 조화(balance)라고 본다. 또 그것이 부모로서 너희에게 반드시 해주어야할 책임이라고 생각한다. One parent is open and liberal and the other is conservative!
그것을 통해서 너희들이 균형있게 자랄수 있다고 확신한다. 어느 누가 좋고 나쁜것이 아니라 오히려 그런 부모를 통해서 인생을 지혜롭게 바라보는 능력을 배우고 이것이 하나님이 이 세상에 음과 양을 만드신 목적이라고 생각하고 아빠 엄마 모두 너희들을 하늘만큼 땅만큼 사랑한다는 점에서는 공통분모를 이룬다.
마지막으로 성경에서 한구절을 인용하니 꼭 마음에 간직하거라
좌로나 우로나 치우치지 말고 네 발을 악에서 떠나게 하라 (잠언 4:27)
Do not swerve to the right or the left, keep your foot from evil (Proverbs 4:27)
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